What’s Up with Asexuality?

Some people have a hard time understanding the concept of asexuality. But there is a lot of inaccurate information floating around so we thought we’d set the record straight.

The asexuality blog defines it this way: “Asexuality is a sexual orientation which can be defined in a number of ways. An asexual could be someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction, little to no libido, or little to no interest in sex. Its community accommodates a wide spectrum of experiences and orientation labels, including grey-asexual and demisexual. Grey-asexuality can include people who experience sexual attraction rarely, only under specific circumstances, without libido, or not strongly enough to act on; while demisexuality can describe someone who only experiences sexual attraction if a strong emotional bond is present. It’s important to note that no two asexual (also referred to as ace) experiences are exactly the same. Some aces are romantic, some aren’t. Some subscribe to a split-attraction model and identify as heteroromantic, homoromantic, biromantic, etc and some prefer to identify only with an asexual label. Some enjoy sex for intimacy or to satisfy their libido, some have an aversion to sex (sex-averse) Aces come in all shapes, sizes, races,and religions. They come from all types of backgrounds and identify as ace for any number of reasons.

Asexuality is complex but also fairly simple. As a society, we need to be more accepting of different sexual orientations, including asexuality. Because so much of the media and today’s society is saturated with sexuality, asexuality can be extremely difficult for people to understand.

So what can you do if you want to understand asexuality more? You can check out websites like AVEN (the Asexuality Visibility and Education Network) which has a lot of valuable information on the asexual community. Some other websites include Asexual Outreach, Asexual Agenda, and WhatIsAsexuality.com. The best thing you can do is educate yourself on the complexities surrounding the asexual community.

True gender equality means equality for all genders and sexual orientations. And the only way we as a society can achieve equality with people of all sexual orientations is to truly understand all sexual orientations. Asexuality is one such orientation that I think people need to make more of an effort to understand.